Thursday, March 27, 2008 

It's only a tool!

I watched an interview this morning with Carnie Wilson on Good Morning America. Apparently she is being followed by the paparazzi and being bombarded with very unbecoming photos and stories about her gaining weight since her gastric bypass surgery nine years ago.

She admits to gaining weight and continually having had struggles with her "inner demons". Watching her reminded me of some of the comments I've gotten from various friends and acquaintances since having my lap band surgery.

Most people have been very encouraging but there have been a few negative comments as well.

I've had the backward compliment...."I'm so glad you are finally doing something about your weight. I always wondered why it was such a problem for you. It's always been a spiritual stumbling block for me. I figured if you couldn't control your weight you certainly couldn't help me with my problems."

I've also had the overly concerned comment: "I saw a show about women who have had weight loss surgery and replaced their food addiction with alcoholism or sex additions. I hope that doesn't happen to you."

I've also had the easy fix comment: "Well, if that's the only way you can lose the weight then you should go for it. Have you seen "The Biggest Loser" show? Those people lost their weight the right way. Maybe you should try that first."

I've decided that there is no easy fix. The lap band is a tool. I still have to do the work. I still have to make the right choices and I still have to exercise. I still have to push away from the table and I still have to make myself go for a walk, or ride the exercise bike .

The fact that I'm not always hungry anymore is a gift.

Daisy Dilemma: How do you respond to negative comments about your weight?

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Not very nicely. But... I am not a ministers wife! Which is NO excuse... but it makes me less likely to WATCH what I say, I think! I have a tendency to remind them about throwing first stones with comments such as "so, when do you plan to clean up your potty mouth?" Or... "How many starving children could you feed for the cost of those jeans?"

... ooooo... am I bitter? It's a mood! It will pass!

Thank them as graciously as you possibly can and be grateful that you have other friends with a sense of decorum.

Be glad you know what they really think.

Phew, I'm glad I didn't see myself in any of those comments.

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