Which one is the pumpkin? Which one is scarier?

I was recently reading an article in a ladies magazine that basically says that "you intuitively know when you're at your best physically, emotionally, intellectually, financially and professionally." The article goes on to recommend getting a mental picture of you at your best (or visualizing). Once you have a clear vision of what your maxium potential looks and feels like, it's easier to create the goals that will take your life there.

The article states that creating a mental picture of what success looks like can actually create new connections in brain and prepare your body for accomplishing any goal you desire.

The biggest factor that keep women from being their best is a debilitating inner crictic....that voice that tells us we're not good enough to succeed and tends to get louder when we're thinking about making important life changes.

While this was not earth shattering information for me it did make me stop and rethink some of my previous actions. Looking at some of the successes of my Dieting Diva's I see that all of them made a committment to better health and have stuck with it. They made up their mind and have kept with it.

Why can't I? What's holding me back? Lack of knowledge? (No, I'm sure I have every diet book ever written, and even read a few of them!) Is it lack of discipline? ( I always start off well and am totally aware of what I'm putting in my mouth.) Lack of encouragement...(no, sistah's you've all been very supportive and butt kickin!) Emotional Eating? (definitely a factor but I'm trying to ease the craving with creative writing to supplant the urge!) Lack of exercise? (I still haven't found anything that I enjoy doing...it's all toil, sweat, and drudgery but I am doing it!) Lack of focus? ( I'm already OCD about it, it's taken over my whole life!) Lack of Direction? ( I'm weighing myself, measuring, weighing and measuring my food, what else is there?) Lack of healthy self-teasing to jolly myself out of self-pity? ( No, that's the only thing keeping me going!) Have I missed something? What is the big glaring factor that is missing here?

I've never been good with math but here are some equations I've come up with:

Time+ Confict= Change

Desire+ Consistency+ Time = Change

What is your equation for winning at the losing game?